Motivation And Goal Setting Is About Small, Actionable Steps
Have you ever felt aimless in life? It feels like you wake up, go to work, manage your basic daily tasks but are treading water?
Have you found it difficult to identify and actually work toward the goals you do have?
These are common struggles and we can often make things worse by getting stuck in our heads.
It’s easier than you think to identify and work toward your goals and once you start, you’ll find the motivation to keep going comes naturally!
Motivation Is Natural, Don’t Force It
Motivation is the energy we feel when we’re hungry for achievement. It keeps us looking forward and doing the work our goals require.
We think people get the wrong impression about motivation and that misunderstanding costs them dearly. When you see motivation as some unnatural, magic force that you have to establish, nurture, and even fake, you set yourself apart from it. From that distance, it’s harder to maintain.
What if we told you that motivation is a natural response to a goal you truly want?
The first step to establishing and maintaining motivation and achieving goals is the goal itself. You have to want it.
Your authentic self has to want it. If it doesn’t, you’re struggling against the current.
The problem probably isn’t your motivation. It’s the goal itself and how you talk to yourself about achieving it.
Motivation And Goal Setting: How To Get In Touch With What You Really Want
We have a little formula we like to use when we approach our personal growth.
We break our goals down into small goals, like learning a new wellness skill once a month, and longer-term goals like saving for a vacation. It’s a great idea to write these down in your journal and use it to track or discuss your process. Vision boards are another amazing way to focus on the goals you’re working toward.
In order to pick the goals themselves, we ask ourselves these questions during meditation or when we have quiet time to think:
- What makes me feel happy and empowered?
- Which things do I struggle with the most and why are they an issue for me?
- What is the last thing I achieved or learned that helped me with my life in general?
What makes you feel happy and empowered? Make lists of the things that make you feel the most alive, the most connected, and the most YOU. Refer to them often, especially when you want to pick a new goal to achieve.
What are you always struggling with? Stay in touch with your own personal problem areas. The things you struggle with reveal a lot and working on them will make you feel good! If you have problems setting boundaries, saving money, or practicing self-care, add these to your goal list. Remember to only keep the goals you can actively work on in the front of your mind so you don’t get overwhelmed.
Which other achievements made you feel awesome? Once you start achieving goals that improve your life, you’ll notice patterns. Do more of that! Find other skills or rewards that are in the same wheelhouse and keep expanding.
If you feel that your goal is really aligned with your core values and beliefs and that achieving it brings you closer to the person you are, it’s time to evaluate your process.
It’s likely that you’re growing frustrated with a lack of structured steps in your plan. Without them, you rob yourself of the rush we feel when our work pays off.
Reframing Your Goals For Better Authentic Alignment
You can’t always avoid goals that feel mundane, but you can tweak how you think about them. Your internal dialog is always moving you closer to who you want to be or further away. When we engage in negative self-talk, we erode our motivation and devalue the goals we’ve established.
S0, if you hear yourself saying, ‘This is too hard, I’m too stupid, I never follow through…’ it’s time to stop yourself and adjust! Do something you love, like listening to your favorite music or doing something physical with your body. You could also talk to a friend. Get yourself back into a positive headspace and then approach your goal again.
A great trick for reframing negative self-talk is to ‘go general’ and say something good about yourself or the situation, however small it might be.
For instance, ‘I never follow through,’ can be reframed as, ‘I am in touch with who I really am and that’s so powerful. I know when to let go of things that aren’t working for me. This gives me more time to pursue the things I truly want. When I’ve stopped working toward something in the past, it’s because I didn’t really want it, didn’t have the skills to achieve it, or it wasn’t the right time. I am aware enough to learn new things to help me grow, to try again when I don’t succeed, and to admit what’s truly important to me.’
Once you start viewing your own thoughts as part of your goal-oriented process, being positive will become a habit.
The Vital Steps Along The Way
You can break every goal you have into smaller steps and doing this helps your motivation. Don’t be afraid to gamify your goals by rewarding yourself in healthy ways. Sometimes, the progress alone is enough, but sometimes you need a little extra boost.
If you’re saving for a vacation, make your destination your phone background or screen saver. If you skip the takeout once a week to stash that cash in your savings account, try to learn how to make your favorite foods at home as a reward.
We strongly advocate for frequent review of your achievements, so don’t feel silly patting yourself on the back a lot as you go.
Motivation And Goal Setting Is A Process, And You’re On Your Way
Guess what? You achieved a goal just by reading this blog! When you clicked in to read it, you were identifying an area you’d like to make progress in. You probably want to do better at goal setting because it makes you feel good when you achieve things and that means your motivation is already working just fine.
Now that you’ve finished reading this, you’ve learned some ways to think differently about your goals. You also learned about our favorite tips to help you succeed.
We hope you keep that motivation up by writing down one goal you’d like to work on next. Use whatever method works for you: your journal, a sticky note on your mirror or computer monitor, or the place you keep something you always wear so it becomes a symbol of your goal when you see it.
We love to keep a list of our active goals near our Skara Harmonize so that we can be mindful when we take it every day. We repeat our goals out loud, list why we’re working toward them, and remind ourselves that it’s going to feel great when we achieve them! This works great with any supplement you take, but CBD is especially helpful because it keeps our mind, body, and soul in balance. This alignment fosters success because it puts us in a state of harmony.
People who feel good do good!
Finally, don’t forget your pep talks and rewards to keep you focused. We know you can do it!
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